…Or looking like it.
I can’t claim to having my sh*t together all the time. But sometimes I do, and I know a fair few people who do (or at least, give an extremely convincing impression). Therefore, I thought I’d collect some of my favourite tips and tricks for looking and feeling like you’ve got it together.
Honestly, the majority of these things just make your life 10 x easier.
Be yourself… As cliche as it sounds, there’s literally no point pretending to be someone you’re not, so if you hate wearing make up etc. then don’t bother.This is what works for me and might do for others but never pretend to be something you’re not, because people see through that and it’s no good for you anyway.
Get a diary/planner… You don’t need to spend a fortune on fancy stationary; obviously everyone loves cute stuff, but anything will do. A diary will really make you feel like you have your life together, even if you just carry it around with you and occasionally flash it around to appear organised. Even better, actually use it and add all of your appointments, events and reminders religiously. I’m always obsessively diarising even the smallest of things.
Technology wise… DELETE all of those unnecessary photos / screenshots on your phone to free up some storage. Clean up your apps – get rid of ones you never use. Update everything, so for once, something runs smoothly! I recently did the same with my laptop and it’s a literally a new machine. Time to stop ignoring all of those annoying (but important) pop up reminders…
Prepare for the day the night before… I cannot recommend this enough. That girl at work / school / uni who always looks perfect, coiffed and completely sorted is probably like that because she chose her outfit, laid it out, packed her bag and made her lunch the night before. Unless you want to get up ridiculously early, the absolute key to a cool, calm and collected day is night before preparation. Plus, you will probably a few extra minutes of sleep, so benefits all round. In general, having a more or less set bedtime routine during the school / work week (obviously let’s allow for spontaneous fun – don’t regiment your life tooooo much) works wonders for organisation and the overall mindset the next day.
A little bag of tricks… I always feel like I’ve got my sh*t together during the day if I’ve got a little pouch in my handbag containing all of the essentials. For me, my must haves are a lip balm, headphones, a nail file, hand cream, mints, a tampon, mini deodorant and perfume. You never know when you might need this stuff and it can quickly take you from day to night. Or you’re that girl who’s always got something on hand for someone else in emergency. Also, keep all this stuff in a small bag within your bag, because otherwise it will almost definitely get lost in the depths of your rucksack / handbag for the foreseeable future.
Always be early… I reckon you want to be somewhere such as a meeting, appointment or class a good 5 minutes early. It’s a crucial time to collect yourself and gather your thoughts before you head into whatever it is, especially if you’ve been in a rush. Not gonna lie, I often arrive from the tube or the train feeling like a bit of a dishevelled, sweaty mess and always need a few moments to get myself together and my ‘go’ face on.
Thank you letters… Always, always write thank you letters/cards/notes for birthday/ Christmas presents or any significant gifts. The same goes for any big parties, events or dinners you might attend. It’s classy, polite and always very much appreciated. From what I can tell, people generally love to receive any kind of letter and it’s always a nice touch. It also means people will remember you, which is normally no bad thing (unless you behaved questionably at a party). Plus, it’s another excuse to buy pretty stationary, so there you go.
Remember people’s names… Yes, this might seem a little obvious or even slightly pretentious. But it is actually pretty easy to forget a load of names when you’re introduced to a bunch of people at an event, or in class, or at work. The best way is to repeat every name (at least once out loud, maybe several times internally so you don’t seem mad) you are given and make a decisive effort to remember. I’m normally pretty good with this sort of thing, but I know for a fact it’s the absolute worst feeling when you forget someone’s name or even worse, they forget your name. I don’t know about you, but if someone who has met me at least once forgets my name, I feel pretty off about them.
Learn a new skill / have a hobby… It immediately makes you 1000 x more interesting and gives you that edge if you have an interesting skill or hobby. Blogging / writing / creating is definitely included in that, and people are always more engaged if I mention my blog. Also, the fact that you have time aside from studying or working to learn a skill or have a hobby instantaneously makes you look like you’ve got your sh*t together. I always think that people who learn languages in their space time are the epitome of togetherness (if that even means anything in this context), especially if it’s something crazy difficult, such as Arabic or Mandarin. I need to be one of those people…
I have a tonne more thoughts on this topic, and plenty are beauty / fashion related. Not gonna lie, I thought I’d maybe steer clear of them for this post in fear of coming across materialistic / narcissistic, but maybe there will be a part two…
Thanks for reading – let me know what you think!